Don’t you just hate the term “company ready”? As if having your house clean enough for family isn’t good enough for company. As if your family doesn’t deserve what you would serve to strangers who drop by.
It also implies that we shouldn’t have friends over until our house is in some state of perfection that we don’t normally even try to achieve for our own family.
I have decided that things that aren’t good enough for company to see, aren’t good enough for my family to see either. If I wouldn’t want the next door neighbor to see trash in the floor of my living room, then I don’t want my kids (who put it there to begin with) coming home from school to see it either.
Does this mean my house is spotless? Nope. But you could come over right now and I wouldn’t be embarrassed. I would be cleaning, as it’s my cleaning day, but I wouldn’t be ashamed for you to see my house, because I determined that my family deserved better. They deserve a home that is peaceful. That is clean (not immaculate, though at times I do get there). That is welcoming and inviting. That is stress free. Where friends can come in and out without invitations. That is “family ready.”
So many of us these days isolate ourselves, because our homes aren’t clean enough to have anyone over. We tell ourselves when the house is clean enough we’ll have company. Or we invite company then spend days cleaning to make the house clean enough for that company. Don’t our spouses and children deserve that same level of care? Don’t we?
Years ago I had a friend K. who believed that as my friend she should be treated as my family. If it was good enough for the kids to see dirty laundry on the floor, it was good enough for her.
My friend K. taught me a lot. She taught me that if I am sick, my friends will do my laundry for me and they won’t judge me that it was dirty. They, in fact, expect it to be.
She taught me if I am hungry, my friends will bring food. They don’t expect me to have a perfectly stocked freezer and pantry. They want to show off their cooking styles from their own stocks.
She taught me that I was missing out on a lot of fun by setting my expectations of a clean house too high. K. would come over and bring her two and add to my then two and we would talk and laugh, and occasionally fold some clothes. We’d feed the kids lunch and trash the kitchen with sippy cups and peanut butter smears and tired children. Then we’d wash them all up and put them down for naps and gossip about things women gossip about. Then she’d go home and I’d straighten up and get ready for Hubby to come home and I was extremely happy. The next day we’d do it all again at her house.
“Company ready” was never attainable. It’s exhausting even trying. No matter how clean a house is, it will never be “company ready.” And you will never want to have company over.
“Family ready” means a house is clean, organized, a little messy, a little busy, full of laughter. “Family ready” is attainable. And you will want to have family (and company) over.
So these days, when friends stop by, our house is “family ready”. They are welcomed in. We talk about our days, while the children play. We can have a little lunch. We can gossip while the kids go to the mall, since I am the only one who nap these days. LOL It’s fun.
So is your home family ready? Do you feel like you have higher standards for strangers than you do for you own family? Why? Don’t your spouse and children deserve better than anyone else on the planet? Don’t you deserve to have friends over for coffee, without the stress of a major move? How about joining me in my quest to make “family ready” the new standard in home care. That’s clean, organized, a little messy, a little busy and full of laughter. Not perfect. Not immaculate. But warm and inviting. You can do it. Do it for your family.